Travel with "Difficult" Kids

The "Difficult Kid" Label
First: apologies to any and all kids, for sticking a label onto some of you. But the fact is, some kids are more restless and revved-up than others; and find it harder to cope with change; and are often extra-sensitive to noise, to smells, to heat, to the tone of Mom's voice, to the very feel of their socks...

Here's some pointers that are good practice with any child:

Make your schedule very clear.
Describe the different stages of the trip: how many plane rides, and so on. Maybe even rehearse some parts. Use pictures or drawings with young kids.

Emphasize that plans can change.
When unexpected things happen, we all have to adjust.

Beware of these three Danger Zones:

Disappointment Intense kids picture what they hope for so vividly that disappointments hit very hard. Sympathize; suggest alternatives; and keep a secret stash of treats and little toys. Overtiredness Pace your kids. Give them rests and snacks before they fall apart. What does it matter whether or not you see the Louvre; it's more fun to sit outside and drink juice. Really. Play Areas in airports These spots are wonderful-- unless your flight is ready to leave and your child isn't. Tell your kids about the time limit right when they start to play. Remind them gently. Countdown the last minutes. For toddlers, have some enticements ready, to ease them away.

Suffer with Dignity
Of course you never expected to crouch in a busy airport while your son has a tantrum on the floor. But you'll live through it. Forget the staring bystanders, focus on your child— who feels worse than you. Try distraction; try verbalizing what he feels... And afterwards, unburden yourself by telling a friend the whole story. Years later this might be a family legend! Remember when....?

And on the subject of tantrums...

Read tips at How to Avoid Tantrums on the Trip.

 

Yes, travel IS harder with kids of a certain temperament; but don't sacrifice family holidays because you're afraid of your child's behavior. Help her cope; and she may surprise you by how well she does.