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Should your teen driver take the wheel on family car trips?

Ah, the open road: throw the kids in the back, cram in enough stuff to fill a small apartment, and away you go. Mercifully, as the kids grow, you no longer need to cram in strollers, diapers and talking toys. It may seem that life is getting simpler.

But of course just around the corner is that moment when your sixteen-year-old has just obtained a learner's permit. So get ready for the words: Can I drive the car?

And suddenly your road trip getaway is the locus of all your teen driving anxieties.

Teen Driving: Learn by Doing

The obvious solution is to treat the getaway as an opportunity for your child get practice behind the wheel. Teenagers definitely need all the practice they can get... as some sobering teen driving statistics at Drivehomesafe.com indicate. So the chance to drive for long stretches with a parent(s) in the car is a Good Thing. Really.

Teen Driving: How to Help

For starters, watch your own habits and see what kind of example you set when behind the wheel. If you're an impatient tailgater-- well, pretend you're not, when the kids are in the car with you.

Scan around: act like a second pair of eyes for your teen driver. Point out the sorts of potential risks that your teen should be noticing. And of course watch for imminent dangers!

Hold the cell phone: in your own hands. Your teen driver should not be distracted by cell phone calls. (Not to mention that using cell phones while driving is illegal in some states.)

Help out with the dashboard: new drivers can get flustered if suddenly the window fogs and they need to flip on the defroster; or they may need reminders to switch from high beams to low.

Watch your attitude toward your child: be patient, and positive. Don't frazzle your teen driver with too much nagging. And definitely don't lose your cool: if tempers are rising, it may be time to take a break.

Planning for Safety

It's not only your job to scan the road for hazards, but to think farahead-- well, that's parenting, isn't it?

Be sure, for example, that you know the rules about teen drivers in individual states: some states prohibit teens from driving late at night.

Perhaps your teen is fine with highway driving but isn't ready to handle a strange big city. Make sure to take the wheel yourself in plenty of time-- so that he/she isn't plunged into heavy traffic and confusing interchanges.

Double-check that you have adequate insurance; and always, always, buckle up!

Teen Driving - More:

tips on insurance, parallel parking, tricky road conditions, and more at Teen Driving

State Driving Regulations

Teaching your Teen to Drive - from About's Guide for Fatherhood

The Teen Driving Experience: Do's and Don'ts -- advice from About's Guide for Parenting Teens